Can I save my marriage?

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So....I need the big dogs to disect this....

H comes home early this morning off his night shift. I'm getting ready for work. Its 7:30 am.

He walks into the bathroom and hands me a nice hot coffee straight from Tim Hortons, my favorite coffee joint next to Starbucks. I look at him like what? Last night you didn't have two words for me....

I say thank you, I appreciate that. He also brought mini donuts for the boys.

He looks at me and grabs me and gives me a big hug.

He then apologized..." Sorry for being such a jerk the last few days. It is just this bipolarness I have in me."

What? You actually admitted to having the characteristics of someone with bipolar disorder? Crazy! I didn't know what to say! He actually admitted his wrong behavior! He has apologized before for being a jerk, but that was it. No mention that it may be a "problem" with him....just that he may have been acting like a jerk.

I didn't know where to take this. I didn't know what to say. I really didn't respond. Hugged him back and thanked him again for the coffee.


I will mention that I was at his sister's house yesterday, and we got on the topic of the situation. I mentioned to her that one minute he is super perfect and affectionate with me, and the next minute he doesn't want to even look at me. She agreed that she sees this behaviour in him too. She also said that she doesn't know much about H's intentions but if she ever gets the chance she will investigate. I asked her not to say anything and she said she wouldn't. She said she doesn't ever say anything to him when we talk. But I'm leaning towards the fact that maybe she called him last night. I just can't see him coming to this realization all on his own.

He even took the kids to the dayhome for me as i was running late. He just got off of nights and was ready to sleep for the day but he said he would pack them up and take them. Wow. Not normal.

He came home and wished me a good day and hit the hay.

What now?