Hope and heartache

[mishka422]

Good plan, as long as you are truly doing this for yourself, not so that 'she will see'. What you do, how you live your life from now on are not any reflection on her and she may not pay any attention to it. If you realize that she isn't reacting to it, will you revert to the 'old you'? That's the question to ask yourself.

I found myself reverting to some old habits that I had overcome for a while because I didn't see them as making a difference to my xh (when we were still M'd). Now, I've corrected back to the changes I made because they were really for me, not him.

Yes, you will be tied together forever because of your children, not just 10 years. How you choose to spend those years is what will make the difference in your life. Stop dwelling on her, focus on you ONLY.