Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[mindfull]

SD -

Congratulations on a better day. It sure helps to get good, sound advice, and start to lay out a plan.

We have not stopped praying!

Enjoy your time w/your boys!

[goldeylox]

((SD)) Praying for you today.

[SoldierDad]

Ok, Good morning all.

Finally slept through the night-feel much better.
Have some news. The chain has contacted 3 Soldiers that live in that room/area. They have been read their rights and ALL have said that they don't know my W. Huge thing is this: 2 of them are M. The single guy spilled his guts about the women he has had in his room, and none fit my W description. SO, that leads me to believe that the SOB is M. My chain just sent the PI report, which has the OM license plate and make/model of his truck, to the other chain. SO, I should have some sort of closure within 24-48 hours. Bottom line is: all 3 of them, that live in that area, have been read their rights, and 2 of them (the M ones) said they were not seeing anyone-as they are M-they would NEVER cheat-right??!!

I have to get served today, print out the nasty e-mails from my W for my atty, go to my S12 school and get a copy of his progress report-Lawyer says if he is struggling, can show W isn't helping him.

So, bottom line is, SD is in a good place right now, both mentally, and spiritually!!!!

Thank you all so much for the help through this rocky bumpy road. I know I am going to need your support as time keeps ticking.

Also, wanted to add: W has been contacting both Brothers asking what I have told them-which is nothing by the way. She knows I know something, just not sure how much!! Knowledge is power!

[goldeylox]

I have no experience, but I hear that 'Cheaters always lie'.
So, go get the legal thing done and then...
What are you going to do today to increase your PMA? Peace.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

So, bottom line is, SD is in a good place right now, both mentally, and spiritually!!!!

Thank you all so much for the help through this rocky bumpy road. I know I am going to need your support as time keeps ticking.

Saddle up your horses, baby -- you're about to go on one helluva ride!!


The Great Adventure
Steven Curtis Chapman

The Great Adventure -- Steven Curtis Chapman (YouTube)


Saddle up your horses

Started out this morning in the usual way
Chasing thoughts inside my head of all I had to do today
Another time around the circle try to make it better than the last

I opened up the Bible and I read about me
Said I'd been a prisoner and God's grace had set me free
And somewhere between the pages it hit me like a lightning bolt
I saw a big frontier in front of me and I heard somebody say "let's go"!

CHORUS
Saddle up your horses we've got a trail to blaze
Through the wild blue yonder of God's amazing grace
Let's follow our leader into the glorious unknown
This is a life like no other - this is The Great Adventure

Come on get ready for the ride of your life
Gonna leave long faced religion in a cloud of dust behind
And discover all the new horizons just waiting to be explored
This is what we were created for

(Chorus)

BRIDGE
We'll travel over, over mountains so high
We'll go through valleys below
Still through it all we'll find that
This is the greatest journey that the human heart will ever see
The love of God will take us far beyond our wildest dreams

Yeah... oh saddle up your horses... come on get ready to ride

(Chorus)

[Coach]

Good work.

Cheers

[TrentC]

Bottom line is: all 3 of them, that live in that area, have been read their rights, and 2 of them (the M ones) said they were not seeing anyone-as they are M-they would NEVER cheat-right??!!

That would be funny if it weren't so tragic.

The good news is, a married OM may make it easier to bust the affair, as he has some something to lose if the affair comes out.

So, bottom line is, SD is in a good place right now, both mentally, and spiritually!!!!

Good for you!

Thank you all so much for the help through this rocky bumpy road. I know I am going to need your support as time keeps ticking.

That's what we're here for.

Best of luck to you in the next couple of days.

[MichelleLT]

Glad to hear that you have some good steps to take!

You sound centered. Try and hang on to that place.

Ironically, I am glad to hear OM is M. It will blow up in their faces much faster that way. (Course, sucks to be his W, and my heart goes out to her)

Glad you are enjoying the time with your boys! And so happy that your L thinks you have a good shot at custody. Your W was very dumb to put all that stuff in writing, good for you for documenting it!!!!

Good luck. And hang in there.

P.S. Congrats to your son! The concert sounds awesome!!!

[TrentC]

You sound centered. Try and hang on to that place.

Now that you have some downtime, here are some things to consider:

1) With all you have recently learned about your wife while you were gone, do you still want to make this marriage work?

2) If the answer is "yes", what do you need from her in order to make this work? NC and transparency? Treatment for alcohol abuse?

Think these things through so you know what you want to tell her when you are given the chance.

[SoldierDad]

Well, quick update. I got the papers served to me a few minutes ago-wasn't as bad as I thought it would be.

I am going to lawyers in a few minutes to drop off paperwork, and assorted nasty e-mails from my W about the boys.

I will know the OM name this afternoon sometime. I will turn that info over to my lawyer too, as he wants to subpoena him when we go to court over the divorce-to establish the A, and how it was unhealthy to/for my boys.

Will write more later, as I get info. I feel pretty good, in control, proud, ready for anything she might throw at me.

Thanks again all.