Need Some Qwik Advice

[dburt]

You also need to settle down when talking to her, be clear, strong, and decisive. You already gave your boundry, she crossed it, now go through with it. No papers?, tell her that you will take care of it. I think 2 or 3 weeks is long enough for her to find a place.

Burt

[OnceBurdened]

I hear you. I can do that it takes a breath and some clear thinking but I can do that.

Sure does suck.

[dburt]

Sure does, you should be planning the conversation before it happens, what all you will say, but more importantly how you would say it.

Let her know, this is different, he is balls out serious about this one. Not just the normal, argument stuff.

Burt

[OnceBurdened]

I did Burt, she called again and actually said " It's (atty meeting)set up for 4 tommorrow. I can't believe this is all about a reply to a text."

I said " It's more than that, it has been and you know it. I can't think of anything else but to let you have your freedom to do what you want."

This stinks. I'm not really hurting kinda mushy but not- I gues I've had enough.

[Greek]

Saturday Night she slept in our bed for the first time in awhile.I heard a vibrating in the bed. It was her phone, she had it tucked under her pillow. I got it " opened the recieved message which read " I love you, Goodnite" from OM. I told her to get the F out. She asked Y ? I said is this appropriate behavior for him to send this to you? She replied NO. I said" Did you tell him to stop contacting you or it was over or anything along those lines?' She replied " No, it's hard i have feelings for him" I said "Fine- file the doc's or I will on Monday and walk away from your family, your wrecking a home and S*n on me everytime this happens and I Won't stand for it anymore"

Attention Deficit Disorder. You might want to remind her about the above next time she tries that "all this fuss about a reply to a text."

Greek

[OnceBurdened]

I wish I wouldn't have seen the damn text.

I'm glad I saw the text.

This is my day so far, need to get the balls back again.

[luvless]

we feel you O

pick um up off the ground!

[TrentC]

I wish I wouldn't have seen the damn text.

I'm glad I saw the text.

As much as it sucks, it's better that you know so you can do what's right for your relationship.

She knew what was being asked of her when she came back. Was there any agreement for transparency? If so, then she has no excuses. If not, then ask for that if she comes around and decides she wants to try again with you.

Believe it or not, this is not the end. Filing for divorce is not the same thing as getting divorced; and maybe seeing you get serious about this will change her attitude towards you.

[luvless]

how come everyone here thinks when filing it's not the end...I so see the end when it comes to filing

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I filed, we never divorced, and I haven't been happier in over 15 years.

Lots of things can still happen, O.

Puppy