I recently let go a lot of internal hostility and anger before this came to light. I have no intention internalizing this crap. I have also accepted my responsibility for the current state of my M. That is not a problem. The problem is that I have accepted my part and hers to readily in the past.
So your wife reacted to your challenge with anger and entitlement, eh? Did she say all the stuff about how bad your marriage was, got married for the wrong reasons, how you were not connected, etc? Did she challenge your boundries? I am not doing that, etc.? But she came around didn't she?
I am meeting with L on Thursday. I am straddling two worlds here. I am fully ready to work on my M and I am increasingly ready to move on to what is next for me.