I wish you could do the chat thing on here! I just noticed we're on at the same time!
okay, so all those things are good that you have listed.
you listed things that you've changed that your H didn't like before and thats good too.
have you listed things about your H's top 5LLs that you have tried to show him love in those ways?
you know, why don't you see if he would do the short quiz for that? and if he doesn't want to, then just act like it's no big deal. Just tell him you ran across this and was curious what his results would be. ??? maybe even do the kids first and tell him about it and act excited about it and excited for him to do it.
just a thought.
one thing to note. there was a period of a couple months (I know it's way shorter) where my H was just doing the same as your H. he actually had the OW still around but had been spending way more time with us and less time on the phone with her (she lived in another state). My point is, I didn't really see a huge difference before he wanted to come back. It was almost a shock when he text me to tell me he wanted me to be his wife forever. We never did ILYs, and he didn't show me that he really wanted me. BUT, the only difference I remember between you guys and us was what I said already (about being sad) and me flirting with him. I was even sending some sexy pics of me to him.
So, I really feel that if you want a change in the R, then a change needs to be made. But first, you just got your health back, and your getting you back, so keep on this path and start building that faith...and then when your ready, I really really feel you need to work on the flirting if you want something to happen.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
