Coming up on One-Year of DB'ing...

[S.T. _I Made It!]

G, may I ask what your path is? the 1 sentence version.

and I agree with G.

Mind, can you reflect back on all your DBing and let us know if there has been a span of time where you were truly happy? I know that you've GAL'd, but reading a recent post where you said you hide those tears and sadness by walking away, or going to another room, whatever, I'm just wondering if it's always been that way. I know this is tough, but I really feel that this is important too. I really believe that my M was healed quickly because of my faith in God, and the faith I had that my life was going to be awesome! Sure, there were days where I struggled and was sad, (for the first couple months I was aweful!), but I got to a point where I was almost excited about what man God was going to give me, and I didn't know if it would be my H or not.

My point is, the less tears/sadness that you have to hide from the WAS, the easier it is. They know you, they've lived with you for years, so they are going to sense those times of sadness. Maybe not every time, but I'm thinking they have to know, and that sadness can be a contradicting action to our DBing. Does that make sense? I could be totally wrong, but I do believe this had a great impact on how my sitch went. And really, I have to be right because the opposite, doing more tears/sadness, we know, doesn't work at all!

So, this is why I ask that question. Right now, you are getting yourself back which is SOO SO important, and part of that step is about you having faith in your future! Be excited for what God has planned for your life! The less sadness you have and the more excitement you have, the more he will be drawn to you and want to be a part of it, cause girl, his life sucks for him too right now but he doesn't know what to do about it!

and fyi, I won't let you give up yet either. at least not until you've tried to seduce him.