feel like giving up - talk to me!

[mindfull]

Luv...

Just logged in, and this is the first message I see! Actually, I say, "Way to go!"

My only question... do you have any proof that he's actually done anything?

[Gnosis]

Luv, can you recall the exact words you used when you accused him of messing around?

[luvless]

Mind I have no solid proof other than my gut feeling. This being nice on weekends and distant throughout the week is a red flag on top of my intuition.

G - exact words? I was so mad - um "look..I know what you're up to" is how I started. I told him I will go to any lengths to protect myself and that he cannot sleep in my bed and I cannot pretend to be his wife when he is not treating me like one.

I said I've been praying for you (he knows this) and this is what I get? You better watch yourself because I'm getting tired of being treated this way. He continues to deny anything and that I'm pushing him - maybe I am - but I have NO patience for infidelity - I just dont!

I know I have no solid proof guys but I've been through this before with him and every single sign just screams at me.

Luv is counting to 10....1...2....3.....4.....5..

[mindfull]

Luv, your gut feeling is yours alone. Can you verify what you're feeling, in any way?

[luvless]

I think I may resort to using a voice activated recorder in his car. He is using his work blackberry so I can't see phone calls on his iphone.

I'm not being paranoid guys - I've gone through this before with him before we got married (if you read my first post back in 5/06)

I'm so glad you are here with me - don't know what I'd do without you.

[Gnosis]

All I can offer right now is (((((( Luv ))))))

I was trying to see if you had called him out directly on the suspected affair - which you didn't. No F from me. You called him out on his crap behavior and laid a boundary. You can't enforce it until you're proven right.

[luvless]

I know G - I just need him to know I won't stand for it. He may think I'm in a vulnerable spot right now but it's time for me to change my attitude. Now I will lower the boom and be happy - no more R talk! If he is screwing around...which I think he is...it only makes it easier for me to close the door.

He text me this when he got to the office - tell me what you think

"I just don't know how to respond to such a statement...out me? there is nothing to out me about!..shocking you continue to create an isolation (i dont get that line) where do you get this stuff from I don't know but I really don't like the things you said."

Remember this is a man who told me I was crazy for thinking he was messing around and he was.

[Serenity13]

((((Luv))))

I am so sorry for you this morning -

I truly hate the blameshifting...

It isn't like you don't "know" when something is wrong.

Trust your instincts

[Gnosis]

Take Dane's words that you borrowed and practice them. I have a feeling that tonight you're going to become WAS.

You know him better than us. He has a bad track record and his credibility with you is shot. I can understand that. If he values you he'll work for it.

[soleil]

Luv,

Just wanted to let you know I've got you in my thoughts & prayers. This is a really tough time for you so & am sending you lots of hugs.

Try to keep your head up.