Yes, I see your point. The problem is dumping our M causes pain for my kids as well. Can she even see that through the fog?
We had guests last night so she had to be cool. But this morning, I could tell she woke up seething with anger. I told her that she seemed angry. She shot back, "You don't know anything. You probobly read some article that says I should be sad because I can't see the OM, but you don't know anything." Jez, it sounded like something a lovesick teen ager would say. Frankly, it was hard not to crack up. I responded with, "I am sorry you are in pain." and left the room. I then recieved low key hostility for the rest of the morning. But she did acknowledge that she could not see him anymore. Interesting?
What about the A? I mean, it doesn't just end right? It is a grief process--there is denial, anger, guilt, etc. I mean, I cannot realistically expect her to go cold turkey. She has some real tough sh*t to deal with here, right.
