I do not even think she will ask where or who but I know I got under her skin when I told her I had plans tomorrow night. She was supposed to take S9 again on Thursday night but now says she has plans. This feels so much like a game boys and girls play in high school, tit for tat. That is fine, for now I will play the game.
She's ticked off It is a game. Don't play the game is my advice. If you play the game, you can lose. If you don't play she can only lose.
Have you not got fixed schedules when the kids are with her? If not, why not fix them? If you do, and she is scheduled to take them on Thursday then her new plans are irrelevant. If she makes plans when she has the kids, she also makes plans for a babysitter.
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I was polite and validated her feelings by saying "I understand not being able to concetrate at work". I went on to say that I had to make decisions that are best for me and the kids now. I then asked if she was planning on supporting the kids financially in the future. This really got her going but I was still polite and firm. I feel like I am back in the driver's seat tonight and not along for the ride no matter what happens.
EXCELLENT!
She is getting a taste of what it's like to be on the other side of the fence now. WAS pay child support. WAS don't get their bills paid by the LBS. WAS have financial problems.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
It is a game. Don't play the game is my advice. If you play the game, you can lose. If you don't play she can only lose. 