This one is for you GNU Shake it Out - Manchester Orchestra Shake it out, shake it out God, I need another, and another, and another, and another I could feel it now. I felt the Lord in my father's house. Well, I could see, I could see standing we were seventeen make it clean Are you the living ghost of what i need? Are you going to get the best of me? We will see.
Cause I'm done being done with a funeral, at least for now. Are you tired of being alone, are you tired of being alone?
Shake it out, shake it out. Tired of another and another Wasn't really what I wanted so we bled it out, over the floor of my neighbors house. I could see I could see God I've never seen a thing, so complete I am the living ghost of what you need I am everything eternally, god just speak.
Cause I'm done being done with a funeral, at least for now Are you tired of being alone, are you tired of being alone?
Speak to me.
Oh God, you gotta shake it out, shake it out! you gotta take it out, take it down! I've got to come around, I need it now more then I ever have.
Oh God you gotta shake it out, shake it out! you gotta break it down, break it out! You've got to come around, I feel it now more then I ever have.
I felt the Lord begin to peel off all my skin. And I felt the weight within reveal the bigger mess that you can't fix.
I swear, I swear I'll go Lead me into my home Don't stop don't ever go I swear you'll never know you'll never know
Oh God you gotta shake it out, shake it out! You gotta break it down, break it out!
Thought I'd add a copy of an answer that I posted to Mindfull in answer to ST's question:
Originally Posted By: S.T. _I Made It!
G, may I ask what your path is? the 1 sentence version.
Hmm.. one sentence may not cover it, but I will try.
You don't truly appreciate what you've got until you feel you've truly lost it. Then you scurry to get back what you thought you had.
This is the driving force behind all of us LBS's. We rush to get back into the marriages we thought we had. We GAL, 180 and figuratively go to the end of the earth to get our WAS back. Then, IF the WAS "wakes up" we are overjoyed. We generally welcome them back unconditionally, very few strings attached and without consequences for their behavior.
This is where the clash comes in. WE, the LBS's, have changed. We've been "purified" in the crucible of pain and suffering whereas the WAS has been "emancipated" during this same period of time. We've done the work and they have not had to do a thing. i.e. They've not undergone their own "purification" process. Generally they get off light and don't pay the consequences of their actions. No, I'm not saying this to be sadistic. We need to realize what we are taking back is still damaged. No lessons have been learned. No work has been done by the WAS. Their emotional investment is so minimal that they are virtually "free" to walk away again when things don't please them.
We are so thrilled with the idea that we have "won" and have our spouse back that very few LBS's make them work to return. Out of fear of losing them again, we don't present our own "laundry list" of demands. That list is important. It is an ACID TEST. The WAS demonstrates how much they value you. If they're not prepared to put in the effort it is a fair indicator of disaster further along down the road.
I hope the above provides some insight into the vacuous mind of Gno...
dday101798: You are on the right track, but a bit to the extreme in nature. I hear you dday. And yes, its going to be extreme because I've become extremely frustrated.
- 180's have not worked. - Patience and understanding have not worked. - Communication has not worked. - Love languages have been met with below mediocre results. - Getting busy with my life has not worked. - Going dark has not worked. - Going dark / NC near the beginning did not work.
So... it's time to change and use the only last resort I have.
And to this, all I can say is your missing the principle, these are FOR YOU, not your W. capiche?
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
This is the driving force behind all of us LBS's. We rush to get back into the marriages we thought we had. We GAL, 180 and figuratively go to the end of the earth to get our WAS back.
This further facilitates my statement. I know it's a hard lesson to learn, and took me a damn long time myself, even after the D, but you need to learn it.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
dday101798: You are on the right track, but a bit to the extreme in nature. I hear you dday. And yes, its going to be extreme because I've become extremely frustrated.
- 180's have not worked. - Patience and understanding have not worked. - Communication has not worked. - Love languages have been met with below mediocre results. - Getting busy with my life has not worked. - Going dark has not worked. - Going dark / NC near the beginning did not work.
So... it's time to change and use the only last resort I have.
And to this, all I can say is your missing the principle, these are FOR YOU, not your W. capiche?
Si, Si. Don Dday.
Originally Posted By: dday101798
This further facilitates my statement. I know it's a hard lesson to learn, and took me a damn long time myself, even after the D, but you need to learn it.
Dude, I get it, got it, BTDT etc.. That clicked in some time ago.
Gnosis, sometimes we act anyway possible just to get out of limbo, status quo, stagnation. You know best what's going on in your head, but since it took you 2 years to come back to the M, why is 7 months unacceptable?
Out of curiosity and with the risk of having missed something important in your sitch since I havent followed your threads from the beginning...
Calm down, identify your goal. The desirable goal, not the "approachable" goal. We usually go for the easy way out confusing it with progress while all we want is to just see a change of some sorts. Limbo is nerve wrecking. You know if your M is worth it. K
PS CC charges didnt say "BoB", it's just said "be cheeky" or something similar... VS is VS, he can imagine all he wants.
I can endure, neutralize and even combat all her other emotions but when it comes to hate I am clueless. If you have any ideas on how to neutralize it let me know.
I have some experience here. During my M breakdown, when H wasn't speaking to me, vice versa, I was feeling a LOT of resentment. So when he did try to engage me, I was acting very neutral and even-toned and he kept coming back in an accusatory/mean fashion with everything he was saying. I know he was prob going out of his mind because I had stopped reacting to him and this was new for him so he was all out of sorts in how to respond to me.
So if she is being crazy toward you, DO NOT come back with your own CRAZY. Try to remain calm and speak to her in an even tone. If you come back hissing or rude in any way, shape or form, it is going to push her away, without a doubt.
Did you find out anything about the voice recordings?
