I can take it no more soldiers wife need help

[Jstar]

it sounds as if you may need to detach from situation directly with h. you are worried about what he's going to say and do. he will see that as weakness. you do not have to explain anything you do nor do you have to answer his questions. is he doing that for you.

i think i follow db rules somewhat but more of a tough db rules.

his recruiter is not in his chain of command and will only act as a go between, he is not going to give you or direct you to the help you need, maybe he will, i could be wrong, but that's not the recruiters job and if it is his friend he may have more of a bond or alligance to your h then you expect.

friends are a good place to start, though i always took that as an insult, maybe its code for sometihng else, just a little joke.

i don't think you can go on what he has said in the past, things may have changed and you have to go with what the situation is at this point.

if you want to answer why you have not been responding, just say, i've been doing a lot of thinking and making decisions. if he asks further, just say i'm not yet willing to discus them with you at this point and cut the convo.