Yup, dont let him suck you in. Im glad that you followed up on figuring out what was behind this lady.

I hope that he is scared. He should be. He has made some poor choices, and now nasty reality is breaking in on his little fantasy.

IF he does start talking about how he wants to try again, you need to be very, very strong and not take the bait. You need to set boundaries, not because you dont want your marriage to get better, exactly the opposite of that in fact, you are doing those things to make sure that when your marriage does start to be rebuilt, it is on a strong foundation so that this doesnt happen again.

So, hopefully you have him shaking in his boots because you told on him about him ignoring his responsibilities. Have a glass of wine, and take a hot bath- this is a small victory for you!

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...