Bridge, wish you were in Oregon. Our Mediator is (was?), IMO, a perfect fit for our sitch. We've actually become friends, so he can no longer mediate for us.
Perhaps I could inquire about a referral in your area, if you like. It will be a little more difficult to find one who has the financial piece, but I know my fella subs out parts that are out of his area of expertise (i.e. domestic abuse support services). He has quite the network, most is local to Portland.
Hugs to you, prayers for D15.
Goldey