I do think that sometimes, they need to be called on their bad behavior. I also worry that he might try to use you not allowing him access to D2 against you in case that there is ever a custody battle. I dont think that your being unreasonable.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
he knows he has no ground to take me to court in the sense of he walked away, did not show up for concilliation services, is illegally working, so on and so on. I will fry him in a second to protect my children and me.
he and his family always would say they are a fraid of me and thing is they really have no clue. i've been through court before with first marriage, ugly trial and i know the games, in and outs somewhat and i can move to the outer most part of my county where it would take hours to get there if he was able to say i could not move out of state, but he wont, i can make things so incredibly difficult since i have been on the other side with my d18's father years ago.
his msg does not make me feel good, it makes me angry and upset. andi should respond to it????? a threat of showing up announced, i guess unnounced i will call the police. his order of protection ran out in october and i may just go and get another one.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
I dont know, going dark has been so good for you. I think that your the only one who can know for sure, but I think that in the vent, you hit on some pretty big things that might be worth letting him in on, the trust issues, and the things about D2. I think that as a rule, responding in an emotional state is a bad idea. Every move you make needs to be calculated.
Do you think that you should at least respond to the unnanounced bit? Maybe remind him that not once has he actually asked to see her, and if he had tried to set up specific times to see her, things might have gone differently. And tell him that if he shows up unnanounced, the police will be called. Again, a boundary that I really dont encourage you to lay down if you arent absolutely committed to enforcing it.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
i've calmed down. emotions and pregnancy always run 180 degrees.
i could text him:
i'm all for structured visitation in the best interest of my children. your past decisions in reference to d2 has not been in her best interest, health, support, or safety. you have lost all trust to visit with d2 freely. if you want to visit with d2 submit a supervised visition plan i will look over it and get back to you. i do not take kindly to threats, coercion and arm twisting. That behavior is unaceptable, in the event you do show up unannounced you left yourself no choice but for me to call the police to protect my saftey along with my daughters and unborn son's.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
i'm laughing now. worried, no clue. in my heart i hope he is worried he should be, if he could admit it that would be great, might be his first time sharing feelings other then anger.
i'm not going to send it now and i've revised it and will wait to see how i feel later tomorrow and if he does show up, i will have contact the police. it would not be good for our d2 for him to be coming and going as he pleases.
i'm sure guilt is playing so role in it, but not guilty enough to stand up and be a man or responsible father.
why couldn't he just say he's worried? that would be simple.
i can't help but read into his msg that there is no hope. i know it's terrible and look now how this has consumed me for the evening.
no he doesn't really give a crap about me. i guage it on what he does, he could come over and help with taking care of pets, empty cat box, set up son's room, help around the house, but nah he doesn't give a crap nor is he worried. just like i never believed he loved me, or more then himself.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
Ugh, maybe he and my H could get together. Losers!
Im glad that you could have a laugh at it. I think that your reaction shows you that maybe you arent quite as detached as you would have hoped.
He wouldnt just say that hes worried because hes a dumb guy! Im sure that hes got to be at least concerned on some level! But, let him say nasty things and spout off his venom, can you save that message? Is it a text, or a vm?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
i have a collection of them now of his anger and now this one threating me.
me detached, fake it real well. i love and hate he's called, more of me acting as if. yes and i'm having a boy,......
i'm carrying this mans child, a family has been created, what the heck can he be thinking. not in the real sense, but yeah homies, i'm married, left my wife and kid, oh yea she's pregnant, duh she lost the other baby but now she injects herself everyday and takes other meds to keep the baby alive. nah i don't help her, screw her. how dumb can you be.
oh i remeber one thing he liked i did before, i took d2 over tho mil's when she was a baby, when he wasn't there and left b4 he got back, he called immediately when he found, he was so nervous but liked it. will i do that now, ah NO! i also told her wheni was there, that i was going to move to cali, had every intention, i know she ran to him and told him even before i got daughter in teh car seat.
do i play games, sure can.
so yes if i do respond want it to be very calculated.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
