no im not going to text him back ... maybe cuz i told u i spoke to his recruting officer he said hill call him ... dont know and im not going to answer him... he might just want to get piss off at me for doing that ... he is that way the the recruter is a sgt. and a good friend ... but ill find out what happen tomorrow ... when he calls me im not going to answer him...
Me: 35 yrs H: 35 yrs D: 18 yrs Married: 21 yrs H is over seas : July. 2009, "not happy now..confused" "don't know what I want" "I love you, but not in love with you" Currently: confused and lonely
no i did not text or call... the last one was an argument not good and it was when i told him about the calls i got from a girl... but i think it was the sgt. ill see tomorrow im not going to answer ... if he text again later i might just say im busy ... its just the way he said it ( hey im at work ... busy ... ) wear can he be thinking he might have acted to text the wrong person ... he might be using that on me to u never know ....? lol
Me: 35 yrs H: 35 yrs D: 18 yrs Married: 21 yrs H is over seas : July. 2009, "not happy now..confused" "don't know what I want" "I love you, but not in love with you" Currently: confused and lonely
Good for you. Who knows why he texted you. Dont try to figure out why hes doing things right now- its a waste of your precious energy.
You need to be unreachable to him right now. If you do speak to him, he MUST be respectful. Dont let him yell at you (of course, that means that you cant yell either !), if he starts to get upset, tell him that you have to go, you can either tell him that you wont be spoken to that way, or just that you need to go because your on your way out the door- if he asks where your going, just be cheerful and say "Oh, just out, bye!". It is important for him to think that you have lots of wonderful things to do. But, your interactions should be on your terms.
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I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
that i got help and im coping with what ever is coming my way for me and my baby girl ... but i still dont feel right talking to him ... for what he has done... even tho he might not care i do so thats why i dont think i should talk to him ...he changed all his passwords when i do his stuff on his myspace and facebook and yahoo... what he learnd quick right so that hurt me to that ... i think hes not depending on me either he might be useing the same stratagy on me...
Me: 35 yrs H: 35 yrs D: 18 yrs Married: 21 yrs H is over seas : July. 2009, "not happy now..confused" "don't know what I want" "I love you, but not in love with you" Currently: confused and lonely
but ill tell u something i got a smile on my face and my hart beat at 50 miles an hr.... is that good or bad
Me: 35 yrs H: 35 yrs D: 18 yrs Married: 21 yrs H is over seas : July. 2009, "not happy now..confused" "don't know what I want" "I love you, but not in love with you" Currently: confused and lonely
Your strategy should be that you are growing, you are becoming a stronger woman who doesnt need a man that treats her the way that he treats you. And then you need to actually become that woman. Whats amazing, is how these things really do work.
When a wife of a walk away husband appears to not want him, he will often become the pursuer.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
who about if he askes me why did i go to the sgt. or he starts with look im tierd of u going around looking for help .... or whats going on i told u if he just starts yapping at the mouth ... what do i say cuz im telling u if it was the sgt,,,, hes piss big time ...
Me: 35 yrs H: 35 yrs D: 18 yrs Married: 21 yrs H is over seas : July. 2009, "not happy now..confused" "don't know what I want" "I love you, but not in love with you" Currently: confused and lonely
oh, I dont think that these things can be good or bad. But I really do think that Jstar was right, I think that he "accidentally" sent it, he was testing you. And if thats the case, he will notice when you dont respond!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
well and if it wasent me and the sgt said something to him what would the sgt have told him..
Me: 35 yrs H: 35 yrs D: 18 yrs Married: 21 yrs H is over seas : July. 2009, "not happy now..confused" "don't know what I want" "I love you, but not in love with you" Currently: confused and lonely
Who knows, theres no way that you can predict that. Do you think that there was anything to that girl calling you? Did you still have the bill? I really think that if you do speak to a chaplain, you should take that with you, and really, make sure that you save it in case you ever need it.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
!), if he starts to get upset, tell him that you have to go, you can either tell him that you wont be spoken to that way, or just that you need to go because your on your way out the door- if he asks where your going, just be cheerful and say "Oh, just out, bye!". It is important for him to think that you have lots of wonderful things to do. But, your interactions should be on your terms.