our M has not been this bad for about 2 years. i chased him for months, tried everything and he kept pulling further away. it was not until i went dark for 3 weeks did he come around, also during that time he tried to get into a relationship and said it just felt wrong.

i don't know if being dark is going to have any impact on him, waking up or i say stop wandering the desert.

he has never been been open about his feelings or wants and always would do what he wanted when he wanted with no care concern for how it made me feel.

i really have no clue what works with him. he would say set me free and if i come back to you....something like that. or stop texting .

oh great he is calling rate now.

Me 39 H 30
d 18 previous marriage
d 2.5 with H
s 4.5months with H
Seperation Nov09
july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline