I feel that the separation agreement getting done would be the appropriate time to "release" money. Right?
That would be a great question for your attorney.
It sounds to me like you did great at the party. Good for you for letting it be all about your little man. Without a doubt, dbag is "advising" her. Don't worry yourself about that. Get yor own attorney and follow his/her advice. You'll probably end up conceding some things in order to achieve the goals that are most important to you. BTW, what are they? That is something to think about. After this is all over, no matter how it turns out, you'll want to be able to look your kids in the eye and at yourself in the mirror, knowing that you were true to your values.
