I can take it no more soldiers wife need help

[armywifevampi]

u are getting throw me trust me im calm and more awake but its my first time and im taking it very hard very and i know i should not but i am and its all in my mine and hart....

i dont miss him no more i do miss his presess cuz i do alot in a 1acer lot and i dont have much help im alone here with my baby girl and my mom that i care for shes old and is very stress full to...

the little time i do have i come on here and listen to u and i feel better trust me ive gotten better at braking away from him im not going to lie yeah it hurts like h--l but im doing it ..

and the help im getting here u guys have been the only one that have helped me thro this... u might not think so but ill tell u something out of everyone not even close friends in my life that are a phone call away have even tried ...

and trust me i thank all of u for all the suppourt im getting but yes i might be slower then others cuz im stubern very sometimes...

but im looking fowared not backwards but sometimes i get side track with this being the h-days and my anniversary on x-mass day ... and the family is not together for the first time


so its hard but im here and going up and keeping my head up and faith all together

[Jstar]

NO, get the military involved, they can put him on a certain amount of pay he can take and you have the rest,. They can even bust him down a rank, put him on quarters for not accepting his legal responsibilities.

They have ALOt of experience in this area and the military can do oh so much with pay.

Please go speak to them immediately. go see the chaplain on post if you are not comfortable speaking to his chain of command, it's another way around it, or you can go see the IG.

[armywifevampi]

they take 300 every month for is meals over there and there sometimes closed.. so he takes money out to pay for his food and well his parting and clubing ... but yes ive called his recuting officer... i dont wish to get him in truble he hasent done it yet... but if so i will ill make sure of that even thow i dont have no info ill get it ... thanks

[Jstar]

Let me say this, my h took my credit card i had years prior to R and marriage. he just about maxed it out even after i paid his truck payment for 3 months. i did not find out for a few months he stole it from me and spent it on gas and phone bills.

i reported him to the credit card company for fraud, on the advice of everyone here. HE STOLE from me and in essance that is what your h could be doing.

Recruiting officer is not the person to speak to, get involved with his chain of command, what he is doing is wrong and he chose to not own up to his dependents.

you have his social security number, can find him anyway in the miltary with that, you have his name.

Please do it to protect your family.

[armywifevampi]

i will can i also find out if he has another bank account ...


can he find out i opend a new one with just me in it for that reason..

[armywifevampi]

u there

[Jstar]

i don't know if the military pay clerks will tell you if he has another bank account, but i bet you could ask for copies of his LES which will state which account or accounts his pay is going into.

don't tell the pay clerks the situation, only the chaplain, his commanding officer, not sergeant or platoon sergeant, they are not in position to deal with that, or speak to his battalion or brigade.

get a copy of his les. they can stop any allotments he may think he's getting.

[bluerain]

Do his LES's come to your mail? Do you know his pay grade? Jstar made a really good suggestion about the chaplain. Even if you arent religious, he/she will still talk to you about your marriage and offer you support.

I would call the military one stop people back, ask them where your case is, in my sitch, they got on the phone with the doctor and conference called me in to make the appointment. If you really need to speak to someone, your primary care doctor can probably write you a referral to a therapist, and Tricare paid for me to see a therapist. You might be surprised at how much help your regular doc can give you too.

Once you get into school, there might be an on campus clinic that you can go to, either for a very much reduced rate, or for free.

[armywifevampi]

well he takes the cash out off the back cash ... and i dont know what he dose ... i dont get no mail for them at all i dont have nothing from them ....

i dont even know what he gets payed only what come in the account .. i never got no info from them or him cuz ... ive tried to but he dont have a pin ...

he has to call all the time to give him one for 5days and when i go in i dont get much info cuz u need something a divice to plug in to it to get ur up dates but he cant cuz he dont have his ariginal pass word for it ...

his leader has not gave him permistion to go get that fixed this happend a while ago so ... i can get in is ako account if thats what ur saying but not much info i can get from there...

it wont let me with out his real password its tells me that it wont give much info cuz of that ...

[armywifevampi]

u lost me there dont know much of that