Journaling--We're still maintaining the status quo here, which is good, IMO. We have contact every day, usually initiated by him--probably 75% of the time. I do contact him sometimes if I haven't heard from him, but never 2 days in a row.
He came here and spent the evening/night on Saturday with us. Our son was thrilled and made him promise he would spend the night. He did and was awakened by a 5 year old singing in his room at the top of his lungs, "There was a man who had a dog and Bingo was his name-o..." Only when you're 5 do you wake up at the crack of dawn and start singing like that!
It was H's birthday on Sunday so it was nice to be the first one to tell him happy birthday. It was very hard to figure out what to get him. I haven't bought him presents in years and years and Hallmark doesn't seem to have a line of greeting cards for estranged husbands who might be returning from outer space. LOL Sappy cards were always our things. We both always took the time to pick out cards that meant something in what they said, but I knew it wasn't the point yet for sappy and mushy. In the end I got him a flirty card referencing frosting and a bottle of cologne. He left late morning. I texted him last night saying I just wanted to tell the birthday boy good night. He thanked me again and said he loved the boy perfume (what our son called it) and we chatted for a bit more.
As always I start getting antsy the next day after we spend time together because I'm still expecting him to bolt back into the tunnel. He did text me tonight to say hi though (whew, no runaway H yet). He said he had a horrible day at work and was sorry he was feeling so crabby and didn't want to take it out on anyone, especially me. I told him I understood and that I hoped his day was better tomorrow. We texted back and forth a bit more.
I'm grateful that he thought and wanted to say hi to me even though he was in a rotten mood. He's the one that would always take my mood personally when it had nothing to do with him, but other than it making me sad that someone I care about feels rotten, I don't take it personally if it doesn't have anything to do with me. He kept apologizing for being in a bad mood (which doesn't come through in texts really anyway...) but it means more to me that he reached out to me anyway.
Me38,H:38,S:7 Married:6/99 Bomb:7/04 Sep.:5/05 D Filed:3/08;Final 1/10 Piecing:11/09 H moved back:09/10 Current thread: http://tiny.cc/htcty