She is feeling better. She's back up to working fulltime at work.
We're working on Christmas gifts together; she's very craft-oriented and I have some talent with scissors and a sewing machine so I'm pitching in. (Something new for me!)
We had a good night Friday when we went to my company Christmas party. It was very much like one of our old dates.
She's still sleeping in the other room for the most part, but she will come into the master bedroom with me from time to time.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Trent, You know, I've been noticing a pattern, that I could not see until this holiday season. Before my M crumbled, I looked forward to the holiday season. The music, family visits (sometimes), work celebrations, candy canes, and watching the kids get that 'Christmas morning' look when they were little. Last year I was in too much pain to see much of anything. I think I was in grief over my lost way of life. The music, family visits (sometimes), etc. all became reminders that I had failed. This year, we're doing things a little differently. Keeping a few 'old' traditions, and adopting a couple of 'new' ones, and keeping things more fluid...placing fewer expectations on one another. Its been good for the kids to see us like this. My point? I listen. In the elevator, on the radio, in the posts. And maybe it's me, but it seems that the holidays are a big trigger, much bigger than I would have ever admitted to before last year. As you know, in the NW, we are told, "If you don't like the weather, wait 5 minutes and it will change." Good work, being open to new things, and the hope for a new and improved M. Merry Christmas. Peace.
We went and saw The Princess and the Frog this weekend and had a nice lunch as a birthday treat to me.
I looked into Retrouvaille programs in the area, but the next one isn't until February. So I'll gather the information for when I'm ready to broach the subject.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I'll keep it in mind. I definitely have questions.
Kinda busy today; should have taken the day off of work.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Darn, looking at the location brings back a lot of good memories from my time in OR. W and I been talking about going back for a long visit someday.
Sorry for the hijack. I'm not sure if or how to talk off board, but I can help add m 2 cents on simple questions to Retro as well. Cheers.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
