I am glad to hear you are going to stop looking because you do know there is no OM which was the point of you looking anyway. I really think that once you become ok being you, then things with W could get better. You still seem scared to be alone without things to do. You need to be ok being you so that whatever she does, does not upset you as much. You will still get upset, but not as bad.
Sometimes showing love is by letting go, not filing divorce, but letting go, and letting her learn about herself, and you get to know yourself so that you are happy to be you.
Me29 S3 H left 4/1/09 I file 8/2/10 Divorce final 5/17/11 1st http://www.tinyurl.com/25lhu52 2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg 3rd http://www.tinyurl.com/322yk89