Not sure what to do

[TrentC]

So, how do I get her to see the man I used to be (and am now) when she won't spend any time with me? I only see her once a week and thats only for a few minutes.

If you have any mutual friends that you both spend time with, she'll hear about it.

As PDT says, never discount the effect of third parties. In fact, it will mean more if her co-worker or relative says "I ran into Stu the other day, and he's looking pretty good."