I can endure, neutralize and even combat all her other emotions but when it comes to hate I am clueless. If you have any ideas on how to neutralize it let me know.
How is it manifested? Is she lashing out? Is she being short and spiteful?
IMHO, hate is much better than being indifferent. She wants something from you. As others have said and I agree, there must have been some distressing moments for her in the past. You will need to rake up your memory. It could be something very little (to you), but at the angle she's looking at, it can be very hurtful to her. She needs to see that you can relate to her.
Probably there's no OM (unless she can do it out of spite), but those distressing moments are eating her up. You need to take care of that, it can drive her further away.
