You know, Hope, that actually really does help a lot. H has also begun to realize that he doesn't think what he felt was actually love... altho at the time he obviously believed it was, so much so that he almost risked everything.
I have also thought about my "first love" and the "left over" feelings that are associated with that, to help understand what H is going through. It does help to think of it that way. This is all still so fresh for us. I understand it often takes a good three months of NC before the WAS is fully feeling "detangled" emotionally. I have to remember it has only been a few weeks. And, even then she has tried to contact H who has been great about maintaining the total NC.
