She must be seeing a lawyer...what now?

[Awoken]

So my fears about my W's family seem to be confirmed. Small holiday cards and tokens have started arriving at the house. Each one carefully addressed to "The Awoken Family" but to "W, D17, and S13". I certainly understand them siding with my W, but since we haven't separated, are living in the same house, have not filed for D, and have NOT told the kids anything specific yet, it just seems cruel. In contrast, my mother carefully invited my W over for Christmas with me and the kids. I wonder if I'm being irrational about this? I admit, I'm pretty hurt that her entire family has completely dropped me. The worst I've done is been a poor SIL. Still, I think the different stuff could have been sent in a way that was more sensitive at least to my children.

I'm want to avoid any D talk, but it is likely time to sit down and tell the kids something. I'm mostly worried about S13. Just 2-3 weeks ago he was upset because both W and I couldn't go to Seattle together. I suspect he really knows what's going on anyway.