<<He said he is scared of the fights. He doenst want to fight with me. He hates that. He said that is his number one motive of acting the way he is. Trying to avoid the fights>>
i guess like the late michael jackson, malaka (your H's new nickname) is a lover not a fighter...well not yet anyway .. :-)
I don't know many of us who are in K's shoes. She has a chance and I think we all came here for a chance or we wouldn't be here. He did an awful thing we all can agree. How easy is it to conquer your fears, knowing that you have caused so much damage and still know that you want back into your marriage? The only real insight into his actual thoughts has come from someone that knows both of them and came right out and asked.
Yes proceed with caution, but just because we didn't get another chance either because they had moved on or we had when the chance arose is no reason to constantly be negative. Yes the man has got to find his balls, they are there somewhere.
You know I support you either way but since it looks as if you want your M, or at least to try everything you can, can being a bit positive hurt?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hi guys, I'm a girl. But I think I think a lot like a guy at times.
I honestly am worried about moving him in to only have disappointment. Think of the children. I mean I am honestly shocked by this all b/c this weekend it was K asking for a D and all along her theme as been that this man knows what to do but cn not do it.
I really do not feel I am trying to rain on K's "parade". I am just calling it as I see it.
I have responded to a few posts on her and I think I am more of a "hard-@ss". I think there is a line b/t your own dignity, sanity and happiness and how much you are willing to take from someone else (this is a reference in general and not referring to this thread)
What about calling a DB counselor????????? I really would like for there to be some super expert insight b4 moving him back in.... Especially how things have been going
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
I have responded to a few posts on her and I think I am more of a "hard-@ss"
Meant to type "on here"- meaning DBing.com, hate that I can't edit posts
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
