Pls help--confused and fearful

[newmama]

DBD this is a link to one thread about the things WS say to BS while in the A
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=329476&HL=25757

P17, this is what I mean by "inviting the WAH to divorce."
It's from your plan B letter:

I have decided that there should only be contact between us for two reasons. To either discuss the reconciliation of our marriage or the potential end of our marriage.

Now do you see why I am concerned about the timing of her letter? If she is 100% sure she is able and willing to divorce, then she should send the letter.

But she could also just go NC without the letter, too!

sorry if I am being dense or "daft" as they say over there!