From all the pictures I've seen, the area is beautiful. I'm thinking of taking up photography. And there are wineries, rodeos, skating, a nearby Indian Reservation with cultural encounters.
The big thing I'm looking into is the hiking and biking in the surrounding area. My H and I used to go hiking a lot when we were dating. Once he agrees to ditch the OW I want him to come along again. It will give us something to do together and some common ground. But until then it will get me out of the house, getting healthier, and showing him I can be happy with or without him.
There are night clubs too, but I think I'll avoid that scene - as cutter points out I have a problem with boundaries, as well as impulse control. It's something I'm working on, but no need to make it any harder.
I know that the OW's parents may not believe me, or may not care. But it will make me feel better I don't want to tell my family, and his interferes enough already. But even a slim chance to cause her some discomfort is enough to start with.
What about the letter to my in-laws? I want to tell them to butt out, and I think my H needs to see I'm not going to be a doormat for them (or anyone else)anymore. But as I said, impulse control and judgment are still weak area for me. I have the rule of three now. I have to ask three people uninvolved in the situation whatever it may be before taking actions that could be...problematic.
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"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
I don't want to tell my family, and his interferes enough already. But even a slim chance to cause her some discomfort is enough to start with.
