....If there were no kids and no vows, the decision would be an easy "NEXT!". However, between the kids (6), our religion (very Catholic), and my vows, I have a hard time with moving on...that and I don't know that the problem isn't me and that I'd likely just get into the same situation on the next relationship. I do know that I can't go on being just a room mate and a paycheck. How do I fix this? Where do I start?
Obviously, you know more and have been at this longer than I have. Also, I haven't made much progress in fixing my R problem.
If you are "very Cathoic" perhaps you can schedule some time with a priest and find out what conseling services may be available through your church and find out if your wife might be willing to attend as well.
As to figuring out "the problem" there probably isn't a single problem or a single person who is the problem. It is probably a combination of things that you do and things that your wife does and things that have conditioned the both of you to act the way you do. The best advise I have seen is that it takes two to fix a relationship problem, although one can sometimes supply the motivation to their partner.
Good luck.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
