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Great question. I think she is more lost than ever. I put down a retainer of $3000. She put down $6500 on her retainer on my credit card( I will be disputing that charge...) I told her I will give her $3,000 not $6500. We are going to use a new type of law called Collabrative law. The two attorney's and my wife and I sit in a room and hash it out vs. in front of a judge. Supposed to be more of a mediatory route. The hard part is that she is starting the whole spending thing as well. $270 at Sac's 5th Ave this weekend. Trying not to cancel the credit card, however, she is making it hard not to do it. I realize she will just lose it and try to take me for more money. Trying to keep it as friendly as possible.

I have told her she can stop this at anytime. She has not and at this point I think her pride won't let her stop it. I am still ok with the decision a week later. However, she told her nephew(he is 28 and we were both close with him) that I have a girlfriend. So he calls me friday night to ask, I said do you really have to ask. I didn't say one negative thing about her(I do realize blood is thicker than water). However, he said that he is really disappointed in who she is today.

Regardless, to answer your question no changes in her yet. I am feeling better and better about my decision, I can see her drifting into a deeper and deeper fog. I have tried for 8 months to save her and save the marriage. Nothing more I can do. She has made her choices and now she has to live with them. I can't and won't be stepped on again. This isn't a pride "guy" thing. It is about saving myself so I can be there for my sons...