One day at a time....

[Hope4us]

Not sure what to say to you to help you get over that hurt associated with your H having trouble letting go of OW. I know what you're going through.

I told my W at some point when she said she was scared to try to make our marriage work and scared not to try that I understood because for the rest of my life I'll have the knowledge that there is at least one person out there that knew just the right buttons to push on her that convinced her that being with him was worth risking everything we have together. And that's a total kick in the groin.

On a positive note, now that W's fog has cleared, she realizes she didn't really love OM, but just the fantasy that OM represented. And I can live with that. Still hurts terribly some times, but ya know what? There are times I think back to my first love and kind of break into that Kid Rock song about Summer time in Northern Michigan, except it was Northern Ohio. Does that mean I think that first love was the ONE? No, not by a long shot, but she was special. I like to think of W's OM as holding kind of the same place. For me it makes it easier to deal with.

Hope this helps.