Pls help--confused and fearful

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I could be wrong about this though...does anyone else think it makes sense to be cautious about inviting the WAS to end the relationship for DBD?

Plan B / NC / LRT is not about inviting the WAS to end the M or the R. It's about the LBS protecting themselves and setting boundaries. The boundary in my case was that I would talk about reconciling if the third person wasn't around. Otherwise I didn't want to talk to W.

What the WAS chooses to do when given the letter is up to them. If they choose to pursue D, then do be it. They could choose that now. The benefit of the NC in this case is that by the time the D process is final, you will have had the time work on yourself and be better prepared for it.

My view on my NC is that I am going down a road where I get peace and quiet from W. One day the W will come back to me and say one of two things - let's D or let's reconcile. Whatever she says, I will be far enough down that road to handle either situation. That's what NC means to me (and if W wants to reconcile you will also be far enough down that road that you can make the decision to reconcile or leave them behind).