I told her that he needed to be 100% out of her life if not I would expose it. She said she would not stop associating with him professionally. She said she can be around him and control herself.
This will never work. ANY contact with him -- even NEGATIVE contact (like an argument) -- will set her withdrawal "clock" back to 0:00. That's a physiological FACT.
Well, at least you have your answer. I'm sorry, but stick to your guns. Once she sees you're not going to cave on this, you may get total no-contact after all.
How realistic is it for her to get another job somewhere else? Can she request a transfer with the same company, to another location? How necessary is her income right now to your family's joint finances?
