Pls help--confused and fearful

[newmama]

DBD, I have mixed feelings about you sending the letter now. It's because your WAH is actively pursuing the divorce and in the letter it says to only contact you if he wants to save the marriage or end it. I also believe his pursuit for a D is fueled by anger and emotion from the OW and OW's ex. So if you don't want the divorce, then why give him a way to ask for one? I could be wrong about this though...does anyone else think it makes sense to be cautious about inviting the WAS to end the relationship for DBD?

Also, I was dead set on D back in March but changed my mind a month later. So you could do. The WS script I think is a compilation of all of the BS's reports and common experience. From reading other's posts on survivinginfidelity or marriagebuilders, you will see all the common traits!

Stall. Do not reply. Where are the vets? If you post something in newcomers they live there, I think!