Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

If he is really only home to be my room mate then yes i will talk to him about it, but I don't think I will actually ask him to leave.

And he knows that.

Which is why you're stuck.

Puppy

Ding, ding, ding!

You've said that you still fear his reactions. Until you really overcome that -- as in, you've decided that it doesn't matter how angry or upset he gets (unless you fear for your safety for some reason), it's not going to affect you or your choices -- you are going to be stuck in limbo.