Mom's and daughters. And your stitch. Shame can be the toughest weight for a Mom to carry when she knows her daughter has done something morally wrong. She questions her self as a mother and role model. Then add in how your country deals with issues such as what your going through. And who knows what WAS said to her about you if anything at all.
Her timing may not have been the greatest. But she did contact you. I would send a thankyou card back. GAL. Here. Tell them that you gave D 2 hugs for her. And D misses her. You hope she is well... yada yada yada. Short and sweet. DB her in the letter. If she is important to you. Tell her you were disappointed that she did not contact you or your mother during the final stages of her life. If she is not. Let it slide.
No mention of WAS.
And it would have been in very poor taste if she mentioned WAS to you.
That would be like a xmas card that talked about your relationship.
