A year from now I envision myself getting ready for Christmas, happy/content
Maybe in a D or with H happily back. A year separated working on reconciliation I think is too much. I mean, after a year, we could be still working things thru while living together.
I agree. If we decide to talk about this (right now we are on a break-NC), I will TELL him these three things. So far I have written those to him and he never replied yes or no. I will explain calmly why these things are important to me, and tell him he would need to explain his refusal (if he refuses).
