First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Thanks for the comment Dday, but I'm going to have to respectfully disagree with you on this one. Might have worked for you, and I'm glad that it did, but I will not take responsibility for my W's A.

Was I the perfect H? No. Have I taken responsibility for that? Yes. Was W the perfect W? No. Did I run off and have an A because she wasn't perfect? NO.

Doesn't make me a better person or any less able to forgive, but for me to take responsibility for HER CHOICE to have an A is not going to happen. I don't think I could respect myself if I thought that I was the cause of her A. She has even admitted to me recently that she was perfectly happy in our marriage until she started letting herself slide down that slope towards OM and that's when, and only then, did she start to have problems with our marriage. So for me to accept that I was THE CAUSE, just isn't going to happen.

Again, I'm not saying I'm a better person than her, not by a long shot. We all have our flaws. And I've forgiven her a long time ago, but I still have these periods of anger and resentment to deal with and I don't think I should be making up some excuse in my mind that it was my fault just so I'll not feel.....

I do appreciate your comments and don't let this stop you from responding in the future, but I for one think that there is NEVER a valid reason for an affair. Might be things that make you understand how it can happen, but justified? Um...NO.