Joking John. He did pull A LOT of crap on me didnt he?
I am not lowering my expectations. Not regarding transparency, sex and connection. The work thing I can live with as long as the rest worked. I am NOT becoming a WAW in 2 years. That's NOT an option.
I am thinking things thru. I need just little more time to exhaust a few more possibilities. A little bit more. That's all. K
OK, this worries me. If he is not meeting your expectations regarding these matters now do you think it will change once he moves back in? Then what? I would prefer him to work towards meeting these goals b4 a move-in. I also think these are reasonable expectations.
It does seem like you need more time for you. To really wrap your head around the way things are, could be or possibly never be.
A year from now how do you envision every scenario in your head. 1. a D 2. Separation with NC 3. Separation still working towards reconciliation 4. Moving him back in
You do not have to make decisions today, of course. But the eventual decision you make- can you get a rough "guess" of how it will lead to in the future.
Of course there is a fifth choice
5. Inaction- status quo
Just thoughts off the top of my head
M38, H37 S3, S7 Together 15 yrs Married 8 yrs Bomb July 2008 Inhouse separation "I hate you" "We are over" (too many times to count) Reconciled Sept 2009 (still worth it)
