Well, we just met. She said she spoke with OM this morning and ended it. She looks sad as I would expect. I really feel bad for her. I expressed I understand you are in love with him and are grieving.
I told her that he needed to be 100% out of her life if not I would expose it. She said she would not stop associating with him professionally. She said she can be around him and control herself. "Really? How's that worked so far?" I also questioned whether she wanted to associate with someone like that professionally--someone who will take advantage of others suffering. This angered her further, but there was some recognition that I made a valid point. Nevertheless, she siezed upon it as an opportunity to defend him. I got script about how she has never felt connected with me. I explained that I was sorry I have not been present a lot of times, but this has served as a huge wake up call and I am ready, willing and able to be the man you deserve. She reiterated she did not want to try.
I reiterated my boundry and began to leave. She said she would not be controlled or threatened. She said go ahead tell who ever you want, noone is going to care, it will be gossip for a week and that will be it. I said I am not controling you. I am controling me. I said I am a man fighting for his marriage and his family. She said lets discuss our plans to divide property. I refused and left. She got the last work, "This is how you show someone you love them?"
Everytime, I have asserted a boundry she has done two things 1) got angry and 2) complied. I guess I should not have expected anything less than anger and threats. She just lost something she loves and lost it in a sudden, painful way. Guys, this is a real gut check.
