Ya know...her hatred - bottled up hurt coming out. Does she see you as "not caring?" Is all your efforts on "self" being perceived as not giving a damn or not trying to "rescue" her?
I'm thinking the same as luvless. Hate = intense underlying hurt. Care about the hurt.
Is she feeling rejected? unimportant? disresepcted? unloved? powerless?
I don't think hate can be neutralized, but it can be transformed when the underlying hurt is acknowledged.
