Don't give up yet.....and for sure don't go back to Mr. Nice Guy b/c it just does not work in WAW A's.
My suggestion is to spend more time doing what you enjoy doing and develop a life for yourself-- to the point you can be okay without her in your life. Doing that, will help you turn lose of the rope you have tied to her, and will aide in keeping you from looking in a not-so-attractive light.[\quote]
Thanks, I need to hear don't give up right now because I sure have felt like it. A month ago, she really seemed to be reaching out to me but has since withdrawn. The more I read the mr. Nice guy book, the more I realize that I have not been as assertive in the intimacy department as I should have. I think that as she has grown, she is wanting someone more assertive and at least at one point wanted that person to be me, who knows, maybe somewhere deep down, she still does. I know it is not DB but she reached out to me and I still sit here waiting for her to continue reaching out to gauge where we are. Is it possible that she needs to see that I am able to " man up" and be the man she is looking for?
I know this is a stretch but the more I realize how my Nice Guyness contributed to this problem the more confused I get as to how I should proceed. Of course, I still need to keep heading to a point of being ok without her in my life.
