Oh, see he is home for Christmas, just not Christmas morning. Bestrong, do you tell the kids this, or do you make WAH tell them?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
newmama, I don't know - my oldest knows - I am dreading to tell my youngest - I think it should be WH's job to tell him but I think I might do a better job at it, I don't know.My youngest has such a hard time as it is - this will only make it worse.
newmama, I don't know - my oldest knows - I am dreading to tell my youngest - I think it should be WH's job to tell him but I think I might do a better job at it, I don't know.My youngest has such a hard time as it is - this will only make it worse.
I'd let WAH tell him. His decision. He can explain it. Actions = Consequences
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
newmama, I don't know - my oldest knows - I am dreading to tell my youngest - I think it should be WH's job to tell him but I think I might do a better job at it, I don't know.My youngest has such a hard time as it is - this will only make it worse.
I'd let WAH tell him. His decision. He can explain it. Actions = Consequences
Ditto.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
WAH should be the one and you should tell him he needs to let the kids know.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I spoke to WAH today - I had to force myself to end the conversation - after half an hour - how sad am I We spoke about X-Mas Day too - he doesn't even know if he can sleep in his parents house as so many of his siblings are home too - he will now fly in on the 22nd - I think he is mainly worried about logistics as he has no car - will see if we can work around it somehow and have him here X-mas Day.
It felt so good to talk to him - god I hate this...such a waste
It felt so good to talk to him - god I hate this...such a waste
I know what you mean. I love seeing my WH but it makes it impossible to detach!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I think he is mainly worried about logistics as he has no car - will see if we can work around it somehow and have him here X-mas Day.
I may be out of line here. No. Why? And isn't that his problem?
Come on BS. I know you want to have him there for Xmas day for the kids, but that's his job. He needs to do the work on this. Let him worry about logistics - how about hiring a car? Taking a bus? Getting a taxi? Getting a friend to drive him? How about walking? (okay some of these may be logistically impossible but you know what I am saying).
Stop enabling him and let him do it himself.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
He is sucking me right in again - I can feel it - urgh
On a positive note - he seems to be ok to watch the kids on stephens day - and I am pushing that he does it here at home where my little laptop is waiting for him
