Can I save my marriage?

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I'm glad my sitch is helping everyone! That's great! I am very lucky to have the big dogs visiting me and trying to help me so if it is helping others as well that's great!

Quick update:

I feel I have been doing well at my plan that Gucci suggested. I have been "acting as if" like crazy. Yesterday it really got to him. I could tell. Two phonecalls for no reason, and the man came home early. That's not normal these days. He tucked me in on the couch while I was watching a movie, and was my old husband, the one who seems to love me.

But then yesterday of course my new husband comes out. I wake up every morning and never know what I'm going to get. Its like Christmas every day. Somedays I get a beautiful piece of jewelry, and somedays a lump of coal.

H worked 12 hours yesterday so i did not speak to him. I decided to take S3 to the movies for the first time. He loved it and so did I. I had such a great time. So I get home and H is there. No hello, no anything. Just mad. Why? Well nobody knows. Its about 8:00 and H comes upstairs, says a few words to me and takes off. Nice. Hardly says two words to the boys after not seeing them alll day. Just worked 12 hours and could care less about his children. He had somewhere to be and that was it. Just rude. Whatever I thought. I continued to "act as if".

This is just starting to get old. I feel like them man is still running on separation mode. He worked yesterday, so "technically" those are my days to have the boys, so he just comes and goes as he pleases. Didn't feel the need to tell me where he was going or when he'd be back or anything about the children. Just gone.

H comes back two hours later. Still grumpy. Lays on the couch and falls asleep.

My sister is here mainwhile. Temp so cold her car wouldn't start. It was across the street and we needed to plug it in. So I woke H up and asked if he knew where our extension cords are. He asks why, I tell him, says you can't put an extension cord across the street, its illegal. Gets up all mad, gets his coat on, and hat, throws his gloves down, humming and hawing. I told him not to worry about it, I wasn't asking him to help I was just asking where the cords are. He says well I'll go tow it to the driveway so we can plug it in and save your sister $75 dollars from calling tow truck.

Well sister gets really mad cause he is just acting so mad for having to help. She tells him not to worry about it she didn't ask him to help, and clearly he's not happy about it. First confrontation they have had. Well H reacts the way I expected. Says, "fine!" "perfect", takes off his hat and jacket, goes downstairs and goes to sleep.

I know I shouldn't be fearful of how is going to react to me today. But I am. I am scared now that he is going to be mad at me for my sister blowing up at him. Great.

Just act as if again today? I dunno. Help please.