I decided to go ahead and join them on Tuesday. After thinking about it some, it does give me an opportunity to try and show them I am different than used to be. I can be positive and confident in front of all of them Tuesday night. It will be a little uncomfortable at first, but I can do it.
Exactly, they need to see a Kevin that's fun to hang out with before you get invited to more stuff.
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W thought she had found our wedding candle that we lit every year on our anniversary. She said I could have it if I wanted it. That hurt a bit thinking wow, our M really didn't mean anything to her at all. 12 years of nothing in her mind.
Did you take the candle? If not does that mean the M meant nothing to you?
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I didn't even know that we were getting each other anything for Christmas.
Why not just ask her? That's what I did last year with my now EX, saved a lot of wondering and stressing. Just ask with NO EXPECTATIONS if she says no just say ok just checking.
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She felt the need to tell me that her and the girls and her family all went and had pictures made together yesterday. I didn't say anything to that. She then proceeded to tell me it was no big deal. Ok, why bother telling me then?
It's called conversation, it's about your girls, why not just say something like I hope they come out nice...Be strong confidant wasn't there so I don't know but not saying anything could come across as rude(you don't want that) or self pity...
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Then she said she plans on taking the girls to a movie Christmas night. No invite to join. Ok, cool.
Who knows what will happen after spending the day together...
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Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
