As we get comfy in our married family life, it's so easy to lose that sense of self, of independence, and that's when the women's interest in us just plummets. I think the key to a long term successful marriage is always keeping a little of that independence, always moving yourself in some new directions, to give your W new reasons to be interested and proud, and to give her a tiny kernel of insecurity that your new direction just might leave her behind.
