She has decided and it's not what you want to hear.
Actually coach, she has not decided, or she has decided not to decide. She's pretty clear that she wants to sit on the fence, and wants me to remain supportive and committed while she does so.
So without clear boundaries she's sitting on the fence?! She wants the security of knowing your boundaries. She wants you to decide for her (it's a test.) At that point she will get off the fence.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.