Thanks, blue. That actually is what I needed to start my day on a better note.
Until now it used to be hard to get up and out of bed because at least in my dreams my life was "normal," what it should be. But last night I started having awful nightmares. It's like my mind fixated on the A and developed every cruel thing he could possibly do in living color. That's gotta be the first time I've been glad when a child woke me up at 2 am. So it was a long night.
As for her distance being in my favor...:D yeah I thought of that too. When I left my H during my A I moved home and my ex-OM was supposed to join me as soon as he was finished clearing the military. Ironic, isn't it, how blind I was? If he was able to cheat with me, how hard did I really think it would be to cheat on me? I'm hoping that she finds someone else and "dumps" my husband. I'm not counting on it, though. And once we can get a house and move there he will have to see me every day, doing 180's and GAL. There's something to be said for exposure.
I've decided not to contact her directly - that validates her position. But if my H continues to contact her after I get moved, well...I think her parents deserve to know what sort of unhealthy relationship she's in. I'll bet that when he went to visit around Thanksgiving (instead of coming straight home to be with his family btw!) they didn't bother to inform her parents that he is married with three babies. Or that he could lose his job and go to jail for this. And that she(the OW) knew it from the beginning and went to see him on the training base. How many parents do you think would be pleased by that?
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
That actually is what I needed to start my day on a better note.
