I explained to him what transparency meant and that he would feel like I would be watching him 24/7 and he would feel like he was under the microscope.
"I understand how you could feel that way. I need the transparenecy to heal and regain trust. If you can't agree then it will lead to a divorce because I cannot live that way."
Validation of his feelings - Your need - Consequence of his behavior, which is his choice.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
